Laura Williams, a mother of three asked her husband for a divorce after he had an affair. She took the rest of her life into her own hands and decided to create a Tinder account. After exploring her sex life with eight different men, she realized a lot about herself, and the habits she had developed. Laura has shared some of her insight in the hopes that other women can start to enjoy their sex lives a bit more.
A Mother of Three
Laura Williams is a mother of three children. She was 47 years old when her husband admitted to having an affair. This ultimately triggered a rather messy divorce of a marriage that had lasted 22 years. She had met her husband in university and they shared an apartment in Manhattan, as well as a house in the country. Laura mentioned that she couldn’t have imagined living a life with someone else, speaking to the New York Post Laura said, “I was 47 years old and I expected to be with the same man for the rest of my life.”
She went on to describe how their sex life had become bland and lacking in passion. “Our sex life wasn’t great anymore. There wasn’t any passion between us. But I had expected that.” said laura. Either way, her husband had betrayed her, so she decided to kick him out of the house for good.
She Discovered A Part of Her Personality
About five months after the divorce, Laura signed up with the dating app, Tinder. She did not date at all in her 20s, because she had met her husband so early in life. She felt like she must make up for all the time she lost in her youth.
This enabled her to discover her sexuality. Laura has described her experience in a memoir for other women to learn from her experiences in the dating world. She mentioned that dating is her “superpower” and the divorce helped her realize that. She spoke about her revelations in her memoir, which became available to buy in 2021. Laura found that she had been hiding a part of herself deep down, and now that she had the space to explore, this version of her was becoming more and more confident.
“You now have the freedom to do whatever you want,” Laura told the Post. “If you want to sleep with two men on the same day, you can. If you want to have a tryst in the middle of the day, you’re free. The only person who can judge you is yourself. And if you’re fine with it, screw everyone else.”
Laura opened herself up to date in a way she never had, and twelve months later, she had slept with eight men. Each experience helped her learn a little more about what
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What She Discovered Through Dating
Laura Williams had to put her life back together, but it would never be the same after her husband’s betrayal, but Laura is glad for it. She had now opened herself up to the dating world in a way she never had. She was candid, and confident, both of which she knew men found attractive.
“I didn’t buy into the theory that because I was older, I was less desirable. Men were very attracted to the fact I was a strong woman who didn’t want anything from them and was calling the shots.”
That year of sexually explorative endeavors was filled with afternoon lunches ending in steamy moments in fancy hotel suites, and late-night bootie calls arriving at a man’s house wearing a slinky silk nightdress with only an oversized jacket to cover her, all the while juggling the duties she has as a mother.
One experience, however, led her to realize that she had the choice to say yes or no. She would then ask herself whether or not she feels like sleeping with that person at that moment, and the answer would be very blunt.
“And it’s a literal yes or no,” she said. ” I don’t really care about anything else. You don’t even have to be a good person. It doesn’t matter.”
Though attached, She is Still Open to Explore
Her escapades also helped her understand the needs or desires of other adult men, something she lacked due to being married to one man for so long. She would ask questions like: “What do you like about this? How do you feel about that? Because I missed out on knowing that. And I wanted to understand adult men.”
Laura Willaims is now in something similar to a relationship, although she has not given it a label yet. She still wishes to remain open to exploring, regardless of her feelings. “I’ve gotten attached to someone. But I still hold out the openness to say, ‘If I wanted to have a one-night stand with someone, I could still do that.’
If you’re interested, Laura’s new book, Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends, is out now. Check her out Instagram for more details.
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Sources
- “What I learned from sleeping with eight men in a year after my messy divorce at 47.” New York Post. Anna Davies. May 11, 2022
- “Dating in middle age is my superpower! Divorced mom-of-three, 51, reveals how sleeping with eight men in a year she met on Tinder helped her get over heartbreak.” Daily Mail. Alex Oliveira. 12 May 2022