When it comes to bullying, it is something that is never, ever okay. Sadly, it happens all the time in schools, the workplace, and online. If you have ever been bullied, you will know all too well how much it can affect you. When it comes to teenagers, bullying is rife. According to Pacer, one out of every five (20.2%) students reports being bullied. As a parent, what measures would you put in place to ensure your child was not bullying another? And, if you found out that your kid was a bully, how would you handle the situation? Bullying is never excusable but this dad might have taken it a little too far when his daughter bullied another girl with Cancer. I am not sure I can agree with a parent who shaves his daughter’s hair off as punishment, then again, what she did was not to be taken lightly, either.
Dad finds out his child is a bully
An anonymous father found out that his daughter had been bullying a girl in her school. This girl, however, had cancer and recently shaved her head. Therefore, she was wearing a wig. His daughter made fun of her and even pulled her wig off. In December 2019, he shared a post on Reddit explaining what happened. It read as follows (1):
My ex-wife and I have a 16 year old daughter. And I have the guard. I mention this because what I did and what I will report here, I did without consulting my ex. My daughter recently got involved in a problem at school. She bullied a student who had lost her hair because of cancer treatment. My daughter even removed the wig from another girl. Apparently there is a feud between the two for a while because my daughter is dating the boy the other girl was dating. And my daughter told me that the girl told her that the boy was only with her for sex which was a big shock to me because I didn’t even know my daughter already had an active sex life. He kept saying; But even so, I think this is far from a justification for my daughter’s behavior. I didn’t raise my daughter to treat people the way she did and I was disgusted by her attitude. To make matters worse, my daughter showed no remorse about what she did and stated that the girl in question deserved it. Again, I don’t care what the other girl said, my daughter’s behavior is unacceptable. So I gave my daughter two options as punishment: I would play all her electronics including her cell phone and she would never have others again. Or she would go to a hairdresser and have her head shaved.
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AITA?
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So…he shaves his daughter’s hair as punishment
This is where the controversy comes in. The dad offered his daughter two options as punishment, either he shaves his daughter’s hair off, or, she can have all her electronics taken away.
The girl opted to have her hair shaved off. According to the post, her mother was not happy at all, even stating that if he shaves his daughter’s hair, she would become the new target of bullying.
Did he go too far?
Was shaving his daughter’s hair a tad too far? People on the Reddit thread seemed to lean towards yes. It was too much! One user said:
“Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.’”
Another user agreed, even saying that what the father did was child abuse:
“There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
What are your thoughts? Do you think he took it too far? What would you have done if it had been your daughter who was the bully? let us know in the comments!
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Source:
1. “AITA for shaving my daughter’s hair for bullying a girl with cancer?” Reddit. December 31, 2019
This article originally appeared on Mystical Raven in July 2021 and has been republished here with permission.
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