After her death, private tapes between Princess Diana and her voice coach Peter Settelen were released. In them, Diana admits a relationship with a bodyguard she called the “greatest love” she ever had. The guard went unnamed in the recording but Diana said she was “deeply in love” with him and would have been “quite happy to give all this up and to just go off and live with him. And he kept saying he thought it was a good idea too.”
Today, many people believe she was referring to Barry Mannakee. The timeline makes sense. She claimed to meet him when she was 24, which is when Mannakee became her bodyguard, and he passed away in a motorcycle accident, which is how Mannakee died in 1987.
“I was only happy when he was around…I was like a little girl in front of him the whole time,” she said on the tapes.
Princess Diana’s New Bodyguard
In 1985, Diana’s bodyguard, Chief Inspector Graham Smith, stepped down. She was in need of a new bodyguard. In her biography, The Diana Chronicles, Tina Brown discusses the qualifications for the role.
“What kind of man do you cast to guard a beautiful and unhappy young princess? Someone very strong, very sane, and very married. Someone who could steer her out of trouble.“
Then came Sergeant Barry Mannakee. He worked as a former police dog handler and with the Royalty and Diplomatic Protection Group since 1983. So, in April 1985, the 37-year-old became her bodyguard at a vulnerable time in Diana’s lie. She was raising Prince William and Prince Harry in a complicated relationship. As Brown wrote, she was “still trying to live within the chaffing confines of her marriage but increasingly unwilling to give up on her need for love.”
However, Mannakee was also married with kids. His wife, Susan, was a reflexologist and they have two daughters together, both teenagers at the time. Brown described Mannakee’s appearance as “cocky East Ender with kind eyes,” and “dark and handsome in a blokey way, with a nice helping of spontaneous warmth.” In the biography, Diana in Search of Herself, Sally Bedell Smith wrote that the bodyguard “had a jocular personality” and “put Diana instantly at ease.” [1]
Princess Diana Becomes Close With Her Bodyguard
Mannakee and Princess Diana’s relationship took off during a fishing trip in Balmoral in 1985. The two had already known each other, but this retreat was the catalyst for their close bond. As Brown described the incident,
“As she glumly watched her husband at his favorite occupation, a salmon hook from a careless cast became embedded in her eyelid. Personal protection was radioed to take Diana back to the house to receive medical attention. It was Mannakee who drove the car, Mannakee, not her husband, who consoled her.”
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After that, Mannake supported Diana emotionally, including before social events and trips. In Brown’s book, she quoted Mannakee talking to the housekeeper Wendy Berry, saying, “She kept saying she couldn’t go ahead with it, and just collapsed in my arms. I hugged her and stopped her crying. What would you have done?“
Of course, many became curious if the relationship ever became physical. Diana denied it and Ken Wharfe, Diana’s next bodyguard, claimed it did not. In the documentary, Diana: In Her Own Words, Wharfe said, “Diana did not have a sexual relationship with Mannakee. I think Mannakee was a shoulder to cry on and I think that all of us, both male and female, working with the princess were all potential shoulders to cry on. That was her style.” Meanwhile, James Hewitt, Diana’s ex-lover wrote that Diana and Mannakee did have a physical affair in his book Love and War. Additionally, Brown also believed in this theory.