Spousal support is extremely important, especially when one partner is going through a hard time in their life. A brilliant example of this was during Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s tell-all interview with Oprah. A woman named Casey Huff wrote a blog post about how Prince Harry supported his wife during that time and how it reminds her of her own husband. (1)
Here’s To The Husbands Like Prince Harry
When Casey Huff watched Meghan and Harry’s interview, she was listening to what Meghan was saying, but she was actually paying closer attention to Harry. The reason is that she, like Meghan, had also dealt with anxiety and depression in her past, and she, too, had a husband like Harry, who held her hand throughout the entire thing. (1)
“My husband is not a prince. You can find him in work-stained jeans and a dusty ball cap more often than not. He’s never been in the spotlight, and he lives a modest life,” she wrote. “But when I went to him over two years ago drowning in postpartum anxiety and desperate for relief, he didn’t turn me away.” (1)
Like Harry, her husband didn’t tell her she was crazy. He didn’t dismiss how she was feeling or try to come up with explanations as to why she was feeling that way. Instead, he listened to her. He validated her. Her husband, just like Prince Harry, grabbed her hand and held on tight.
“just as Prince Harry has done for Meghan, my husband gripped my hand through the deepest valley of my life.” (1)
Your Partner Should Be Your Safe Space
Watching the formerly royal couple sitting there, Casey could tell by Meghan’s body language that her husband is an extreme source of comfort for her. He is someone she can go to always, who is her safe place when everywhere else is scary. (1)
She says this is because Harry, like her husband and so many others, is truly a strong man. Not in the physical sense, but in the mental and emotional sense. They are strong enough to love their wives through their struggles with mental illness. They are strong enough to love their wives when their wives are hard to love. (1)
Here’s To Those Who Tune Out The World And Focus On Supporting Their Partner
“Here’s to the husbands who look their partners in the eyes and say in word and in body language: “You are seen.”,” Casey wrote. “Here’s to the husbands who pledge loyalty to their wives and mean it. Who dance with them when life is good and have their backs when things get tough.” (1)
She says that partners like hers and like Prince Harry listen to their wives when they say they aren’t okay. They don’t try to force them to feel okay, either; they just hold, comfort, and support them. She says even when they don’t understand the pain that their partner is going through, they still show up every day and support them. (1)
“While Meghan spoke, she said something over and over again that struck me right in the heart with its significance: “He gripped my hand.” I felt that, because I have been the one with the white knuckles just trying to hang on,” she explained. “My husband gripped my hand when I was falling apart.” (1)
Casey reminds us that good partners are the ones who walk through the dark parts of life with us and carry us when we can’t carry ourselves. When we finally emerge on the other side, they celebrate with us.
Husbands (and wives) like Harry and Casey’s husband never question. They never waiver or make their partner feel silly, stupid, or wrong. Instead, they are that calming rock that stays by their side until they feel whole again.
Cheers to those partners – may we all have them, and may we all be them.
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- “Here’s To the Husbands Like Harry.” Her View from Home. Casey Huff