For most of her life, Mary Crumpton from Manchester in the UK only knew of monogamous relationships. She did her best to fit into that mold. However, she struggled with developing feelings for other people. When she discovered polyamorous relationships, they opened up her world. Now, she has a husband, fiancee, and two boyfriends – and they are all happy together.
Mary Crumpton’s Polyamorous Relationships
According to Manchester Evening News, 44-year-old Mary Crumpton, the former teacher turned therapist began her journey with polyamorous relationships at the age of 29. This after she spent her young adult years in monogamous relationships and was even in a monogamous marriage. Unfortunately, she struggled with developing feelings for other people and then feeling immensely guilty. She felt as though she simply didn’t love her husband enough, and the marriage eventually came to an end.
When she was married, she fully intended to be with her husband for life. Polyamory didn’t even cross her mind because it was not something she was aware of. After her marriage fell apart, she eventually began another monogamous relationship with someone else. It was during this relationship that she discovered polygamy.
“The idea that loving more than one person might not make me a terrible human being only dawned on me when, at a pub, I bumped into a person who had more than one partner. I had never come across it before, or the term ‘polyamory’ which means ‘more-than-one love’. I was quite shocked, and curious about how it all worked for them.”
Mary Crumpton – Manchester Evening News
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A Curious Couple
Her partner was with her when they met the polyamorous person and was also interested in this different way of having relationships. A couple of years later, they decided to give it a try. Each of them had a friend with who they were close but were interested in exploring those relationships further. Mary took to polyamory immediately.
“I quickly realized that I had been ‘wired up’ this way probably all my life – loving more than one person now seems like the most natural thing in the world to me, and I can’t imagine being any other way,” she explained. “For me, it is all about love. Of course, some of my relationships have been sexual, but sex is not the driving force for me.”
Mary Crumpton – Manchester Evening News
Though she and her original polyamorous partner are no longer together, they remained friends, and both continued living this way. She is now married while also being “engaged” to another man and having two other boyfriends.